had i loved me better i wouldn’t have been in most of the situations i placed myself in. but with pain there is always purpose. everything happens for a reason. stay gracious.
You’re allowed to like your body, your face, everything about yourself, even if it doesn’t fit the beauty standard. That doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful. You are. And plenty of people see it and appreciate it. No person is better than another, no one has more worth than someone else, no matter what they look like.
Ladies to achieve anything worthwhile in this life you have to get very comfortable with the idea of embarrassment ,disappointment, resistance and ostracization from your current environment.
When you start out posting on socials, your current friends, family, classmates, and neighbors will laugh at you. They’ll call you pretentious and put you down every step you take. Online trolls will call you a wannabe and put you down and compare you to others. You’ll deal with six likes on a post that took you hours to perfect. When you get your first brand deal, it’ll be as low value as it gets.Then there will be all the virtue signaling and getting canceled and character anhiliation that comes with projected envy. When you start that business, your friends will expect discounts and debt and cut you off for not giving them one. When you start getting successful, they’ll feel entitled to your success and hate on you for not crediting them to it. When you decide to leave the country, your own parents will come at you from angles higher than 360°. When you decide to dress better and sit upright and smell nice, your current friend group that’s used to low balling you will have a group chat called ‘lmaoo she looks so stupid’.
This is the price of success. Success is lonely. Its hard work and being underestimated. It’s losing best friends and rifts in your family. You’ll shower in tears and triple guess every decision you’ve taken. Success is uncomfortable and slow, and it will cost you friendships and relationships, and comfort.
If you can’t stomach this, don’t try. If you can’t imagine not being friends with your current friends or your own family backbiting and badmouthing you at family gatherings and your cousins laughing at you and ex classmates from 2014 trolling your work stay where you are.
If you decide to chase your dreams understand you’ll be running solo. Understand your mom and bf and bestie said 'I’ll support you through everything ’ to be polite and they might even have meant it but the second you start showing up as a different person than what they’re comfortable with there will be resistance and be ready to work through it with them while staying true to your goals.
If you choose the success way forget the romanticized success stories. It’s gruesome . It’s survival only for the fittest, and either go big or go home mediocre, there is no mid point.
low self esteem can set your entire life back. it’ll cause you to miss opportunities. avoid taking risks. stay in situations longer than you should. seek validation instead of trusting your instincts. etc. you shouldn’t underestimate the power of having confidence or high self esteem with one’s self.
If you want to become the best version of yourself you need to:
1. Take ownership of your actions. Good, bad, past mistakes and past wins. Everything. Figure out who you really are, not who you think you are.
2. Change your habits to support your growth. What got you here is not going to get you there. Your actions need to align with the version of yourself you want to become. This doesn’t mean adding to your current habits, it means replacing them.
3. Make health & happiness a priority. Self love shows on how you prioritize your health and your well being. You can’t make your dreams come true if you don’t put yourself first. They depend on you.
4. Learn to say no & develop boundaries. Stand up for yourself. Don’t get caught up with distractions. Not everyone will be able to go where you are going. It is okay to say no to things that do not align with the things you want. Break the cycle.
5. Surround yourself with positive people. Energy is important. You become like the people you hang out with the most. It’s scientifically proven. Surround yourself with people who motivate you. Who are positive. Who live the life you are aspiring to. People you can learn from. If they do not add value to your life, they are holding you back from the best version of you.
In 6 months You can either be in the same place or in a better place. Focus every day on improving your health, wealth, and happiness. It will take time, but you can make it happen.
